Over the past few days, there’s something which repeating keep surfacing onto my mind as I watched the television shows, not one not two but three shows all which shares the same factor – nagging.
Perhaps I might have mention this nagging sector previously in my past entry before but over in this entry, it will be a full blown impact on the full consequences of nagging and how this can result in a family arguments among couples and their kids which will eventually lead to communication break-down and eventually living in each of their own individual separate ways.
Here’s another case example even in businesses, when a boss/entrepreneur is having troubles with their businesses, the first immediate thing which anybody would like to have when in faced with problems is to have some peace and quiet to sort out their thoughts, so if there’s any employees/family members who are by your side constantly nagging and suggesting different ideas or saying wrong words which complicate things, how worse can thing be?
Instead of solving things, a small issue that goes through a nagging session will than be snowballed into a much bigger issue than it originally is because of the nagging and gossiping factor which every lady and caring parents and people have, they end up making things worse without realizing it.
Because when people who care nags, it’s a form of care and concern but when all that care and concern of words are being said at the wrong time, it will than be treated as nonsense and be taken with a pinch of salt, listening from the right ear, leaving instantly from the left ear.
How would I know the consequences of such simple nagging which has such a damaging after effects, simply because I had grown up in such a family and I learnt it by example from my environment as there’s this phrase “Monkey see monkey do.” Having nagged at my family members to save water, electricity etc, since there’s no chance, I no longer nagged already since it’s not gonna change anything.
Throughout the process of nagging which I’ve observed, the first few two times of nagging, it will not be taken into account of the person who did the wrong thing. Once you nagged the third time, they will immediately take action, but don’t be happy, because the action is taken just to stop the person from nagging any more torturous words which will cause more unhappiness only. Anymore nagging from then on will be effective but all words of concern will not be taken into any consideration as care but being strike off any thoughts of communication in future because they don’t want to be nagged upon in future.
What appears to be non-harmful is actually very damaging, when one party nags, the other party who is receiving it will only slowly build up bricks by bricks of invisible barrier building causing the communication break-down in coming months or years depending on individual’s threshold limit. This barrier is the cause communication break-down in a family. As for businesses, if it’s in a family-run business, than it will result in internal conflicts, trying to slaughter each other’s throat hopping to gain the final control of the business in the event of naming a successor, and that’s when the siblings will fall out with each other if no proper terms and conditions and proper upbringing have being taught to the potential successors.
Perhaps those reading this entry might find it a bit too much and hard to believe, but over time when I look around what’s happening around me, my elders it’s just like a rotating cycle, even in newspapers, it’s happening over and over again without fail. Newspapers never fail to broadcast articles with regards to family lawsuits regarding struggle for family heritage and other related articles. Why you may feel if I am exaggerating but this is the truth which nobody have mention it in any media before.. The impact is only felt after years..I’m saying this only because this is what I’ve realized and I don’t want the same mistake to happen again so I’ll write it down to remind myself, as this was partially the reason why my family which was originally a happy family when I was young had a twist and turned into a widowed family. I can truly say that nagging is partially the course of the chain which leads to my single family status. I don’t have any happy memories of a complete family since back than I was too young to have memorize it since back then I was only 4-5yrs old. I only had memories from age 7 onwards which was when I knew that Dad was gone but don’t know why I have to pray etc and doing what I was being told to back than.
Nagging is not something which can be taken lightly, treat communication fairly and respect each other, give each other space and quiet when they come back from home. Much will be written in future on how to go about talking nicely instead of nagging. Stay tuned to read up more.
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