As a family grows and matures so does the children inside the family. What used to be a harmonious family will soon turn into a constant argument debate over different views or perspectives.
The change within every single family is inevitable because kids will outgrow and turn into adults. What ever methods used to nurture, teach and used to control kids in hand will no longer work once the kids mature, have a shift of perspectives like an adult and they will stand by their views.
Once the kids matures, parents will have difficulty coping with the differences because they have being using this very method which works for 20yrs and suddenly realize that the methods no longer works one fine day. That very small shift in perspective is what I deem it as the spark of forest fire aka family arguments.
Family arguments are very common in HDBs and Condominiums as many families are packed in a tight space with little freedom thus family clashes are unavoidable at all!!
I myself is currently facing this problem the day I started learning about the business and adult world when 5yrs back. Once the differences start, that’s the way of no return. People change, and we must learn to accept it. Via writing this blog entry, I have come to understand and agree with one practice of the western people – once you reach a certain age, move out and learn to be self-independent.
Such a frequent argument is very normal for my family which is why I rather be an introvert, let them throw out their junk/rubbish, once they are done, than peace will come by. But rather than always keeping quiet, one should learn acknowledge the problem and find solutions to solve the root of the problem and not a temporary solution which leads to another problem.
If any of you have these similar problems, moving out is the best solution. Only when your absence is felt, than only will people learn to appreciate it. Such is what I learnt from growing up without a Dad, I always filled with envy whenever I see a happy family outing outside. Put that aside for now, lets get back to the topic – differences, once the problem has being spotted, immediately rectify it else gradually come up with a sustainable solution to resolve it once in for all to avoid future clashes and arguments revolving around the same topic or digging out past issues which results in a sour relationship.
Such a daily problem and solution brain-storming can be used as a assessment to gauge how an individual come up with a solution to rectify the problem. Depending on the type of solution, we as entrepreneurs to be and future bosses, ought to know this so as to throw a problem to a prospective partner/employee to see how they respond to determine if he/she is up to the job.
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